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Saturday, July 16, 2016

The conclusions of my life struggles.

Sister McPherson daughters are Letitia, Daniel, Tiffany. These young ladies (with my only sister Rita) made my life complete.  We did every thing together and went places together.  I remember they were from St. Louie Missouri.  When the McPherson family went back to visit they took Rita and myself with them.  This was the first time in my life I ever been out of Oklahoma City.  I feel God was preparing me for the journey with my husband.  God know who to put in your path because he knows what we need.  I do not want to even think about where I would be if it wasn’t for  God putting people in my life like the McPherson family.  I see why God put my husband in my life.  He has help tons of hurting kids such as myself.  We also took kids in our home and helped them.

Growing up I just knew I would be homeless or have a house full of kids.  Thank God he look down on me and put people in my path.  I never been to night clubs, to house parties, to movie houses, or nothing that would cause me to get into trouble.  Once again my difficulties were great.  I love the scripture where it says in Matthew 19 vs. 30 But many who first will be last and many who are last will be first.  I always was last but now I am first.

Next week:  Single women looking for Love

Monday, July 11, 2016

My Young Life Struggles

My husband is an advocate for youth.  He doesn’t like youth abused and mistreated.  Youth are special and want to know what is right and wrong.  Youth did not ask to be here so why abused them.  My husband and I have similar stories of abuse in our lives.  But, my story is not about my husband tragic childhood it is about mine.

My sister and I was adopted at a young age. We were from the State of Oklahoma and the city of Oklahoma City.  I was 4 years old and my sister was 2 years old.  We were adopted into a family
of five.  As I got older, my adopted mother became very abusive.

She never hit us , verbally she would make comments that pierced my enter soul.  She would make comments such as “ you will never be nothing, you are stupid, I did not want you, I wanted your sister.  They did not want to separate you two so we had to take both of you.  I did not want you I wanted your sister.”  Down thru the years she would say those words over and over again.

I could not understand why I wasn’t  wanted.  I did not do anything to no one.  I was a scared little girl and did not know what to do.  I was a little girl who just wanted to be loved.  Hearing those words over and over again in my head, as I got older I could not concentrate in school and received bad grades because those thoughts were in my head.  We grew up in a home where my adopted mother was a church attendee  and my father was a stay home neighborhood drunk.  My adopted father knew the word of God better than some preachers and only went to Church on Easter and Christmas.

My young life was depressing.  We only went to School and Church.  We stayed around the house year after year until I became a teenager.  Our only vacation was a 30 mile trip from Oklahoma City to Ardmore, Oklahoma.  We would go to Ardmore and back that was the only vacation for years.  THIS IS WHAT I CALLED GOING TO HELL AND BACK!!!!!!!!!!!
Going to School was even worst.  I was trying to learn and the

teachers always was frustrated in teaching me.  I learn at a slow pace but I learned.  Kids knowing how poor we were they would bully and teased me daily.  The school was raciest and so were the
Students.  Since we lived down the street from the school that the
School we attended.  I began to rebel against every adult that was in my path.  I purposely got into fights and got kicked out of school.  I did manage to graduate from High School with a diploma.

After High School, I meet this wonderful family who God put in my path.  The Pastor of the church my adopted mother attended died.  The church elected this new Pastor and his wife took a liking to me from the beginning. The Pastor wife (Sister McPherson) would invite my sister and I over to her home for dinner and fun.  Sister McPherson had three beautiful daughters and we called ourselves sisters from day one.  I would sneak over daily just to be with Sis McPherson and her daughters.  What fun we had.

Because Sister McPherson did not want trouble from my adoptive mother, she would call and get her permission for me and my sister to come over there every day.  WHAT A HERO SISTER McPherson BECAME IN MY LIFE.  Sister McPherson would council me and teach me about life.  Sister McPherson was the mother I never had and always wanted.

Next week: The conclusion of My Youth Life Struggles

Wednesday, July 6, 2016

Tina Lee Editor

The Conclusion of What you have to do to be a good wife from a man point of view.

Ladies, the first year I was married and trying to figured it out, many ladies that messed up their lives, tried to tell me what they would do in my marriage.  Of course, it was my mistake for telling them my feelings because my husband did not do what I wanted.

My husband use to complain a lot because I would not fix myself
Up.  My hair would be tore up from the floor up.  My house coat was faded and torn.  I only fixed myself up when I went out in public.  WRONG!!!!!!!  My husband would say to me who are you.  I did not marry this woman.  I did not want to clean up.  I did not want to cook, and I just wanted to run around with my friends.

Several times, my husband packed his belongings and said I moving back home with my children.  You can have the house and all its contents.  When he started packing and actually getting prepared to move back to California, I got a wake up call.  This man for years worked hard in his own business.  This man did without and made sure his family had everything they wanted.  This man ask me to do three little things:
Keep the house clean
Take care of my children
Keep yourself beautiful

I was about to lose the perfect man in my life.

Ladies my advice for you would be:
Know what your man expect from you
Do not waste that man time and that man life
Ask God to send you a man that will love you and your children
Be submissive to your man
Don’t nag
Be helpful
Make home enjoyable that he will be looking forward to come home                                                              
Let him worry about the bills and other things the home needs
Pray for your husband
Do fun things together (even if it is a walk on the beach)
Look sexy for your man even if you don’t feel like it
Make sure dinner is cook and nice and hot
Let that man relax when he come home
See what you can do for him to make him more comfortable
Be a listening ear for your Husband
Complement him and tell him how proud of him you are
Make him feel like he is the King of his Castle
Talk about your problems calmly
Keep others out of your BUSINESS!!!!!!!
Tell your husband what is bothering you
Make sure your husband is your best friend
Practice good housekeeping

When my husband asked me to be the Editor of his Ministry Web Page, I asked my husband one questioned.  I asked my husband what made you Love me again?  He said “That beautiful young lady I fell in Love with left me, now I found her.  She is back.”

Let a man be a man.  Now, I have a beautiful home, I am financial secure, and I have a loving husband and family.

Next  week:  My life struggles